I met a man online over six months ago. It was the
best thing I ever did. I have been living in this city for 13
years, but as a married woman. I needed a safe way to meet people
that are single. G. (my boyfriend) has started talking about us
having a future and the attraction of that is much wanted.
I am a single woman raising 3 young children, and
that doesn't scare him away. I had not dated in over 22 years.
Online was the way for me, but I was fortunate enough to meet a
person that has become the love of my life the first time around.
P.
I am 58 and have been online dating on and off for
5 years. I have met many awesome men, a small number who have
become friends and some lovers. The best thing is the amount of
learning and changing I have done about who I am and how I want to
"do" relationship.
From both the painful "misses" and the gifts that
come, I learn. My experiences just get better and better,and I know
it is because I am getting clearer and clearer about what I want and
closer and closer to it .... and so much enjoy the journey.
Thank you so much for your enlightening,
informative and supportive newsletters.
C. in NZ
I am a 65 year old .... but choose not to look or
act like an "old lady"....women can make that choice, you know.
I have a great time with online dating.
Because I live in a very small town, it has sometimes taken me weeks
or months to meet a man I have met online. After being on online
dating sites for a little over a year, I have made lifetime friends
of a few men I met online and am in a committed and exclusive
relationship with the extra-special one.
All of the men I have met have been 10 to 15 years younger than I
am. Age doesn't have much to do with it if you're a fun and flirty
woman, reasonably attractive and in good physical condition, and
never, never "emotionally needy".
Yes, there are sometime disappointments, on both sides.
The secret is not to take the interest of men online too seriously.
After all, they are "offering themselves" online to many, many
women, just as you are "offering yourself" online to many, many men.
J.
Hi Mimi,
I just wanted to let you know that online dating is
fascinating, in my opinion. In the past I was very busy to get out
get all dressed up and try to find someone since I was single, I had
the weekends but then I just wanted to get some rest. I had to work
and study at the same time so I was somewhat restricted in terms of
time.
So taking an adivce from a good friend of mine I subscribed into
an online dating site and I found a wonderful person, we're together
for six years now and furthermore we're getting married in
September.
All the best,
V.
Hi there Mimi,
For those skeptics who knock online dating I would like to add my
experiences.
I dated via the web for about 5 years, I met a lot of great guys
and I am still friends with some of them. It expanded my social
network hugely and yes I did meet a fair number that were a waste of
time but I learned to screen effectively.
Ultimately I met a man online who is now my husband, we have a
wonderful marriage and are now expecting our first child. It is the
first marriage for both of us, he is 38 and I am 41.
Surprisingly, it turned out that he lived about 5 ks away from
me, but we would never have met if it was not for the dating site.
I think one of the reasons I ended up marrying him was because I
finally learned how to date men as per your
advice - although at the time I was dating him I had
similar tips from a different website. I can vouch for the advice on
both because it worked for me.
During our dating period, it was quite up and down , he was
dating other women as well as me, fortunately I gave him enough
space and carried on dating other guys myself, but in the end he
realized I was the one for him and vice versa. Once we knew it was
right we were engaged within 3 months.
Before I found advice like this I was making all the
typical mistakes and I think I messed up a few potentials by scaring
them away. Anyway - although I am now happily married I still like
reading your emails because they are interesting.
Regards,
K.
South Africa
Mimi,I was a single mom
for 7 years and was beginning to lose hope. I signed up for
match.com several times. I met a lot of losers and users but
then I met my husband! We've been married 4 years and just had
our second baby.
My husband and I are both somewhat introverts
when first meeting people so had we met any other way, I doubt
we would have connected. We spent months getting to know each
other by email before we even met in person! Now we are husband
and wife, but more importantly best friends.
L.
That is a wonderful story, L.!! Thank you!
Hi Mimi,
I absolutely recomend online dating. Thanks to
your advice (that I
have been practicing for a year now) I was dating a sexy and
gorgeous man 10 years younger, I am 40, but I decided to join an
internet dating service because I wanted to practice flirting
with men my age or older.
I used the flirtatious lines and flirting
formulas that you recommend in your
e-book, and apply
them to questions and responses that you have you ask/respond
in this dating service, later as I become more comfortable I
would just think "what would Mimi ask/respond to this one" The
responses were overwhelming!
I was in the dating site only 3 weeks, met in
person with 3 men, all gentlemen and very interesting and
succesful, when meeting in person I absolutely practiced the
flirting looks.
The man I liked the most asked me almost
inmediately to date him exclusively, I did, and after 4 months I
can tell you that I am absolutely in love, he's absolutely
gorgeous, in great shape, adorable, affectionate, funny, smart
and treats me like a "Queen."
And do you know what he likes best about me? that
I flirt with him ALL the time! He says I make him feel desired,
sexy and happy all the time.
Thank you, Mimi
Alana
Thank you so much for that, Alana!
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Dear Mimi,
I met my wonderful husband on Match.com... he asked me to marry him
after six months of dating. That was over two years ago. We have been
blissfully married for over a year now. He says he feels like the
luckiest man in the world, when really it's me
that's lucky! He is the most successful, talented and loving
man I've ever met. He's a doctor who also owns his own business.
I would never had met him if I was not doing on-line dating. I realize
that there is a certain stigma to it, but if you are discerning and
careful you can meet great people who are willing to love you and
commit.
Sincerely,
"Rebecca" (I have changed her name.)
Rebecca, that is a wonderful story. Thank you so much for sharing
it. I'm very happy for you and for the many other readers who
have shared success stories.
Comments on Rebecca's story
Dear Mimi,
Thanks for you for sharing the success
story of Rebecca with me and many others women out there
who are willing to make the great change in their lives.
I'm happy for Rebecca. I just decided to
try the online dating myself. Of course, there are
wolves in the form of men online too who are just there
waste time and energy devoted to these search. Yet l can
tell you that there are hundreds of success stories like
that of Rebecca. She is one of the lucky ones. And l
wish the same for myself. Fortunately for me, l begin
what l will call a serious online search and l am
getting the best. He is what l want. I may never have
gotten him if l have not made the move! I know what l
want, and l believe l already have the same success like
Rebecca. It just have to be my decision.
I will let you know when the wedding bell
rings!
Cheers!
Princess
Hi Mimi; while it's great to hear that
genuine success stories emerge from the cyber dating scene,
I think it's worth noting that some of the biggest horror
stories come from the same place, and also that there is a
seemingly far higher frog-to-prince ratio amongst these
faceless strangers.
People are well known to misrepresent themselves online;
some of my girlfriends have been duped in very spectacular
style in this way and were lucky to lose nothing more than
faith in online dating and a couple of hours of their time.
That's not to pour cold water on the whole concept of
course; stories like Rebecca?s are heart-warming to hear.
Best of luck to her and her doctor!
I just think women should be warned to be very cautious
about dating via this medium, not everyone is as lucky as
ladies like Rebecca. You're so
right - a very important point!! |
