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Comments Against Online Dating
On-line dating has not worked for me. I have been out with over 100
men. They all look good on paper but have a HOST of character flaws:
- 1 had been up on 40 counts of fraud
- bipolar disorder
- recovering alcoholics
- guys who pressure for sex from day 1 and try to grab you
- on medication for severe depression
and so on and so on
I am beginning to wonder if there are decent guys on-line.
I'm sorry Mimi but I have to agree with the women that nixed online
services.I have tried several services and as long as I did all
the work making the first contact I could get something going but
the action stopped when I did even though several men comment that
mine was one of the better profiles on the site.
However what I didn't include was a photo of me in a tank top. In
all the time I spent surfing and emailing in the online world I
didn't meet a single man that was reasonably fit, employed and could
handle a conversation that wasn't all about him. It takes a great
deal of time to keep up in the world of online dating and I don't
feel it is a product use of time.
I do agree that it is probably a better use of my time to get
involved in "live" activities that nurture me and if I happen to
meet someone doing that - bonus!
However you slice it there are more older women than men alive
and add in the new dating norms where 25 year in age difference has
people cheering not shaking their heads and it really becomes a
lottery situation for older women. As a vibrant women, late 50s,
I'm not ready to date 70-80 yr olds but of course there is no
shortage on them making their interest clear.
~ C.
Dear Mimi,
Here it's my story about online dating. I did it for 5 years .As I
am a good catch ,I received lots of answers,but I only met around 50
men, more or less.90 % of them, I saw them once for a coffee, not
more. Men online can be put in these categories:
1. looking for adventure (one night)
2. very old
3. very unattractive-plain ugly
4. strange (nuts)
5. men living from a day to another
I only had 3 real
relationships with online men and all finished bad . And it's not
me,because I only had these problems with online men !!
Please publish my answer too, you have not done it for loooong
time.
Best regards,
D.
Dear Mimi,Online dating is not for everyone. I have tried it
several times, its like a job interview on each meeting
I feel that the quality of men online is not what I am
personally looking for. A good percentage of these men have
really bad social skills. They also appear very different in
person from their pictures!
I am much better meeting someone in person, the good old
fashioned way. I just thought I would share with you
Thank you
A.
I also have a story about my online dating. I
met someone from one of the most popular dating sites 2 years
ago, and he proposed six months after we were dating, but after
we got engaged, I found out that he was a cheater, bisexual and
has so much financial issues, where he is in $50,000$ credit
card debt.
I also found out that his ex-wife divorced him
because of his affairs with men.
I think online dating isn't for me or maybe I was just meeting
the wrong guy. I am so afraid in trying online dating again and
take a break for now.
There are many successes with online dating. Also
A LOT of fakes and scams. I was taken in and lost a good bit of cash
to a Nigerian scam. These men are very good at what they do. I
consider myself educated and worldly. I was shocked at it all.
Please warn your readers since you are supporting on line dating.
Thanks!
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This advice about going to an
online dating service is ill-advised in my opinion.
I've had two six-month subscriptions in two different cities and
never had a single date. In fact, I only had one email exchange with
a man that whole time - the last week of my most recent
subscription. It went in the span of a week from "I want to meet you
and take you to dinner" to "I've decided to see someone
exclusively."
Online dating is a waste of time and a waste of money. You should be
ashamed of advising your readers to participate. I've not heard a
single success story.
(See comments on this viewpoint on
this page.)
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